Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Friend-ship sinks.

So I had this "bff" 3 years ago. It was during my college year. We were so close, till people thought that we knew each other for years, even its just a few months at that time. We shared literally everything with each other. However, when we both started degree, due to different courses, we didnt contact as often anymore. We tried to have lunch in between classes, so that we wont lose our friendship. But things dont go as you wish all the time. It was still okay in the first two sems, since we have one or two mutual subjects.

Till the third sem, things werent going too good. Few times, I asked her out for lunch, to hang out, she didnt really bother, or even to give effort to show up. Few weeks later, she broke up with her boyfriend. She told me everything bad about him, and i started to dislike him too (thats what bffs are for right? :P). I believed every single word she said. I did, cause i trusted her. But soon, I found out, besides the bad things she talked about her ex, she was "kinda-flirting" with another guy. I was really angry, how could she even hide everything behind me and lie to me, in some way. I told myself, fine. Wait for her explanation. But wow, i was too naive. She didnt even bother to tell me anything, instead, kept saying the guy she was flirting with, annoyed her. I tried my best to keep him away from her, since she felt so irritated. And again, I found out, she was meeting him all the time behind my back. Fine. I dont even want to bother or give a damn in all her stories anymore. I was the last one to know that she was flirting the guy though, after i saw it with my own eyes.

Everyone thought, they sure will get together. A week after I found out, she is with another guy. SHE ANNOUNCED HER RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER GUY. FYI, there are 3 guys involved. And since her broke up, it was about 2 months only. Everyone's jaw dropped and started to ask me since when they started. Well, I, the bff, again, dont know about it. Hahahha. I started to hang out with her less, since shes always busy dating, doesnt reply texts. It feels like im doing it one way, without getting back any responds. I was really upset for one whole semester, asking my friends why is she doing all this to me, doesnt she appreciate our friendship anymore? All my other friends, asked me to just leave her alone. I still wave at her when I see her, just that i dont bother to stop by and talk more. I didnt even ask her out for anything.

After one whole year, finally her mum approached me. She asked me, is there any misunderstanding between both of us, why do I look like Im mad at her. Oh please, I dont even bother to be angry anymore. I was so disappointed at her. And, if she realize theres something wrong with me, isnt she supposed to approach me herself? Her mum, still dare to ask me to find her more often. If she really wants to keep the friendship, she can be the one making the effort to ask me out. Why am I supposed to be the one that approach her, when she can do the same too? I gave in way too much to maintain the friendship, she was the one to just stand there and do nothing. Now the mum is here, asking me is there any miscommunication. Jokes.

To avoid more dramas, I just answer her mum, there's nothing much, just everyone is busy with their own life. But she doesnt even know what her daughter did. Well, if she ever asks me again, I wont hesitate more to tell her the story. :)